1. Be the kind of friend/mentor/spouse you want to have, and not just to get it in return
2. Christ is the anchor. All other ground is sinking sand- even when it feels firm
3. Sometimes love keeps pushing when it wants to back off and sometimes it backs off when it wants to keep pushing
4. Relationships really are a mess worth making
5. Sometimes we need the bodily reset of a hug, or sleep, or food. We’re simple and limited human beings. Other times we need the deep and ongoing soul work of therapy. We’re complex and whole human beings
6. Allow others to laugh at you by laughing at yourself first
7. Life is hard, be soft
8. Belonging is one of the most powerful means to ground us and keep us
9. What’s done for Christ will last
10. Feelings make excellent indicators and awful masters
11. We can only do the best with what we know at the time
12. We need the church (the church is people)
13. The best things in life are free to give and priceless to receive- like time and presence
14. Quiet faithfulness bears much fruitfulness
15. Listening just to listen/learn is a lost art and it’s what those who are speaking and grieving are desperately longing for
16. Compassion grows when we see a hurtful person as a hurting person
17. We’re all looking for a safe place. So create one and be one and then invite others into it again and again
18. Being heavenly minded changes earthly good
19. Water the grass you’ve been given, even if it’s one small chunk of your yard at a time
20. Push past the awkward
21. Relationships are about giving people the space to both be who they are and change who they are
22. Let your bar of enjoyment be level with the little moments of life, not the big ones. A beautiful life is lived in the ordinary
23. Truth is unshakable. Therefore we move around it, it does not move around us
24. Gods love is not desperately searching out of its own lack but it is relentlessly pursuing out of its own abundance
25. It doesn’t always have to be hard to be good, but often the best things in life take the most work
26. Who I most deeply am is not found in what I do or what I have
27. We can feel and embrace and live in more than one thing at one time
28. The world is really big and really beautiful. Don’t live life in a bubble
29. It doesn’t have to be seen or acknowledged for it to count
30. I have so much to learn